If one of the speakers is a woman then she must be cautious
of being soft spoken. Indeed Allah the Glorified prohibited the wives of His
Prophet, peace be upon him, the Mother of the Believers, Allah be pleased with
them, from being spoken to in a seductive manner by the one who is moved with
desire. And they in the time of the prophet hood and lifetime of the
companions, Allah be pleased with them, were forbidden from being soft spoken,
the Most High says:
{Do not be soft spoken unless the one in whose hear is a disease should be moved with desire but speak in an honorable manner.} Soorat-ul-Ahzaab: 32
So what about those women besides them? Indeed their prohibition of being soft spoken is from the most befitting. Therefore fear Allah O believing women, do not be soft spoken, speak in a good and honorable manner. Meaning, with no softness of tone or prolonged speech, the woman does not address the men she is not married to as she would address her husband.
The woman must be cautious in engaging in lengthy discussions with men that she is not married to even with her relatives that she is not allowed to be alone with according to what the Divine Legislation has forbidden, and the souls refuse it, and brings about in the same listener closeness.
She must also be cautious in raising her voice louder than normal and talking for a prolonged period of time while still being cautious of (avoiding) beautification, gentleness, softness, elegance, and flirtatiousness in a gentle tone and soft spoken manner.
Just as it is impermissible for her then it is also impermissible for the man to listen to her voice indulgently, even if she was reading the Quran. If the woman perceives that then it is impermissible for her to continue speaking with him due to the trial that it leads to.
And here (mention) is set aside for the man, the protector of the home, to arrange his affairs based on guarding and upholding virtue and to protect those that are sacred. So the woman (of the home) should not be the first one responsible for answering the phone while the male relatives are present. She should not respond in the presence of their absence under any circumstances, rather, the man of the home should direct her according to the circumstances and necessities he sees fit. And it is obligatory for her to hear and obey in honor, protecting what is more properly (to be protected) and leaving off any issues of difficulty.
Written by: Shaykh Bakr ‘Abdullah Aboo Zayd, may Allah have mercy upon him.
Taken from Adab-ul-Haatif (The Islamic Manners of Using the Telephone) Pages 15 – 16.
Translated by: Thomas Maldonado on 10/08/2008.
{Do not be soft spoken unless the one in whose hear is a disease should be moved with desire but speak in an honorable manner.} Soorat-ul-Ahzaab: 32
So what about those women besides them? Indeed their prohibition of being soft spoken is from the most befitting. Therefore fear Allah O believing women, do not be soft spoken, speak in a good and honorable manner. Meaning, with no softness of tone or prolonged speech, the woman does not address the men she is not married to as she would address her husband.
The woman must be cautious in engaging in lengthy discussions with men that she is not married to even with her relatives that she is not allowed to be alone with according to what the Divine Legislation has forbidden, and the souls refuse it, and brings about in the same listener closeness.
She must also be cautious in raising her voice louder than normal and talking for a prolonged period of time while still being cautious of (avoiding) beautification, gentleness, softness, elegance, and flirtatiousness in a gentle tone and soft spoken manner.
Just as it is impermissible for her then it is also impermissible for the man to listen to her voice indulgently, even if she was reading the Quran. If the woman perceives that then it is impermissible for her to continue speaking with him due to the trial that it leads to.
And here (mention) is set aside for the man, the protector of the home, to arrange his affairs based on guarding and upholding virtue and to protect those that are sacred. So the woman (of the home) should not be the first one responsible for answering the phone while the male relatives are present. She should not respond in the presence of their absence under any circumstances, rather, the man of the home should direct her according to the circumstances and necessities he sees fit. And it is obligatory for her to hear and obey in honor, protecting what is more properly (to be protected) and leaving off any issues of difficulty.
Written by: Shaykh Bakr ‘Abdullah Aboo Zayd, may Allah have mercy upon him.
Taken from Adab-ul-Haatif (The Islamic Manners of Using the Telephone) Pages 15 – 16.
Translated by: Thomas Maldonado on 10/08/2008.
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